Dr.
Bob's Introduction
Hi,
I'm Dr. Bob the Love Coach. People think they need life coaches and
physical fitness coaches (and they do) but they also need love coaches
because there's a lot of people out there who are experts at screwing
up relationships that started with love and ended up in the sewer.
As
a love coach, I coach all kinds of people, because people actually enjoy
having problems. It adds an element of drama to their lives so they
know they’re alive and problems also give their minds something to do
which is a side benefit. One kind of problem they bring to me on a regular
basis is romantic relationships and how to make them work.
My
take on this is to help the person understand how they’re screwing up
their relationships first. Look, if you know what you’re doing to screw
up a relationship you’ve got an important thing to work with—insight
and an understanding about what to change. Screwing
Up Love is not only a good thing
to read; it can be used with your significant other to have a few good
arguments because people love to blame each other for what isn’t working
rather than taking responsibility themselves. So, let’s start with an
agreement.
While
you’re reading the various chapters of
Screwing
Up Love,
assume that you’re guilty. I know you want to believe someone else is,
but forgo that temptation and accept the premise that you, yes YOU,
are the one doing the screwing up. When you take responsibility, things
are bound to get better. When they do, you can buy my sweatshirt with
the words written in bold colors on the back—“Screwing
up love is as easy as burning toast. I know because I’m good at both.”
I
know you’re thinking, “Yeah, but it’s not just me doing the screwing
up. You ought to see what my mate does!” Of course your mate makes a
number of nasty contributions, so make sure you coax your mate to read
this thing. Together, you might just cultivate enough love to make your
lives as incredible as they should be.
Okay,
now that you’ve accepted the idea that you’re the screw up, I have some
good news. You don’t screw up everything, so as you read the different
screw ups people make to ruin love, look for your major screw ups and
work with them. Isn’t it nice to know that you aren’t a total screw
up? Whew, now that you know you might be doing some things very well,
you won’t get so depressed that you’ll stop reading this thing. Because
if you stop reading, you’ll stop developing insights and the accompanying
promises of change. So, hang on to your pants or whatever is available,
because here we go! To accelerate, click on Chapters
.